'She said, "Family doesn’t make each other pay"': Daughter selling car for $5k so she can move, gets called ‘selfish’ by her family for not just giving it to her mother

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Feb 25, 2024 9:00 AM EST

When it comes to family, sure, you let a lot of things slide for free—in fact, you're usually battling it out to see who will pick up the bill. But when dot he financial situations become more serious between family members?

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  • This Redditor, yagirlleens_33, has been feeling conflicted about her current family drama. She bought herself a car back in 2020 for under $6k, However, she under up rarely using it since she started working from home. However, her mom ended up using it every day to go to and from work and run errands. She didn't mind since her mom helped pay half of the insurance on it. 

    However, she is moving across the country soon and needs some cash. She can't take her car anyway, so she planned on selling it to save some funds. When she offered to sell it to her mom for a huge discount, her entire family flipped on her. They said that she's “horrible for both suggestions” because she would be “leaving her mother stranded without a car and family doesn’t make each other pay.” 

    So many things are messed up with that parent's mentality towards their kid. What makes it even worse is that her family has been making her pay $1,000 a month for rent as she lives with her parents. So they charge her for rent but they expect her to give them a free car? This is all kinds of wrong, what do you think?

    This isn't the only perplexing family drama on the internet. Here's another one we came across recently! 

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    "Tell [your mom] to grow up and be proud that you're making your own way in the world."
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    Am I wrong for asking my mom to pay for my car or I'll sell it? I bought a car in 2020 for $5,500. While the car is mine, my mom drives it almost daily to work as I usually wfh or take public transport to school during the day so I'm not using it, and she'll take it if she has an errand, appt, etc. She doesn't have another car (my dad has a pickup truck which she hates driving). She pays for half the monthly insurance.
    via yagirlleens_33
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    The issue is I'm moving across the country and won't be bringing my car with me. I told my mom I'm either going to sell the car (used car are going for a lot right now) or she can buy it off me for a cheaper price.
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    She said I'm horrible for both suggestions as I'd be leaving her stranded without a car and family doesn't make each other pay. From my perspective, I'm moving out for the first time and could really use the extra money plus I've paid my half of the insurance for the year already so she's getting a discount on that. My dad and brother called me selfish and greedy. Am i wrong to ask her to pay or I'll sell it?
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    Fairmount1955 - 21 hr. ago You aren't wrong. Her not liking to drive the truck shouldn't cost you thousands bt essentially handing over a car you aren't using for free. Or, tell her you are taking it with you after all but then sell it.
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    BlueRex8 9 hr. ago Why lie? Tell her to grow up and be proud that OP is making their own way in the world. They arent asking for a handout to move on but instead is selling their own car to fund it. Good on you OP. Did you mum realise that every single time she drives your car shes adding to the wear and tear of it and also adding to the mileage. Both of which decrease the value of the car itself.
    via BlueRex8
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    rustys_shackled_ford 4 hr. ago Aak dad if you can have his truck and get mad when he's selfish about it.
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    kinnikinnick321 · 20 hr. ago "Family doesn't make each other pay" - yet there you are paying for your mom. Contradiction 101 284 Reply Share Thanmandrathor 18 hr. ago Also saying the kid is leaving the parent "stranded"... arguably it would be on the husband not the child to provide transportation (if we ignore that mom could try and sort something out for herself.)
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    RUL2022 18 hr. ago Exactly!! Mom is the selfish AH and taking advantage of her child which is gross. NTA - do not be steamrolled by your selfish family OP. So family doesn't make each other pay? But you already did pay for the car!! Children are NOT responsible for taking care of their parents financially.
    via RUL2022
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    Vegetable-Cod-2340 21 hr. ago NW She's pay half the insurance cause she uses the car, did she think it was free?!?!?! Op, sell the car, give her one opportunity to buy the car and if she passes, sell to someone else. They're trying to guilt you into giving it to her, but if the show was on the other foot she'd be selling it you too, no one just have money to throw away.
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    Also remind her that there is a vehicle she can use, she just doesn't like it, and even if there wasn't a truck there, her transportation issue would still be a her problem. Op, just know that this may damage your relationship with them, but honestly that's okay, since their aim to screw you out of money.
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    Final-Wrangler-4996 · 17 hr. ago Family is bigger than money. That's why you should never take advantage of your family in a financial way. That's not right. Family shouldn't do that to each other. They should be offering to pay her more than it's worth just to help her out because family is more important than money. If I was her dad I'd give her 10k cash for it. Just as an excuse to help her out a little more while I can.
    via Final-Wrangler-4996
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    mutuall uttsqueezin 21 hr. ago Not wrong at all. Absolutely DO NOT leave it with her under your name. If she buys it from you, make sure the paperwork to transfer to her name is done with the dmv and make sure to remove your plates from it. Do not just take her cash and trust her to do the rest. Your family sounds like a bunch of greedy holes.
    via mutual*uttsqueezin
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    3Heathens_Mom 20 hr. ago You aren't wrong. YOU bought the car with YOUR money yet your mother is the primary driver of the car. So far she's benefited by (I hope) paying for fuel, oil changes and 1/2 the insurance. Yep either mom buys the car at the price you set or you sell the car. In either case you get at least hopefully what you paid for the car back. And news flash for your mom that YES families indeed do make each other pay for
    via 3Heathens_Mom
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    things like cars. Her being stranded is bs as she can drive the pickup. The fact she doesn't like it is a her problem. Reminder when you sell the car be it to your mom or to someone else cancel the car insurance that day once the title is registered by you and the purchaser at the DMV. Especially if your name is on the policy. You should ideally get a refund for the unused insurance. Best wishes to you in adulting OP as some situations like this one aren't fun but are necessary.
    via 3Heathens_Mom
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    AdDramatic522 - 18 hr. ago You aren't wrong. You're leaving anyway. Just sell it. Can't understand why a parent would hobble their child like this. Selfish as
    via AdDramatic522

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